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Quarterly Check-in!

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With a notebook handy, take 10 minutes connecting with yourself (ESPECIALLY your body if you tend to be stuck in your heart or head).

Ask yourself these questions (and write them down with a timestamp!):

  • What's my body highlighting about how I'm doing now?
    - What am I feeling?
    - What am I needing?
    - How can I take steps to meet those needs?
     

  • What are some good things that happened since the beginning of the year?
    - What are some hard things?
     

  • In the next three months, where would I like to be in one of these areas?
    - physical
    - emotional
    - mental/intellectual
    - relational
    - environmental
    - financial
    - professional
    - personal/spiritual/existential

If you're needing some extra questions or examples to guide you in this self-check-in, here's a blog I myself revisit every quarter. 

Of the eight above, the one that stands out to me personally at this time is relational. Time to reach out to my own Enneagram coach! 

Share in the comments - What is one area that's standing out to you today! What is one step you will take this week to nurture that area?

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Joanne is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Brainspotting Practitioner in San Jose, CA. She helps people EXHAUSTED by anxiety, shame, and an allergic reaction to anger create VIBRANT relationships where they matter, too.

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