What’s your pattern of thinking, feeling, doing, and relating?

The Enneagram is a personality model that powerfully describes our core motivations, needs, and fears that drive us to engage life in consistent (and often constricting) ways. The patterns that helped us cope and survive difficult experiences have over time become rigid, fixed, and automatic, keeping us unconsciously trapped in painful lifestyles and relationship patterns.

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Consider these “stuck points” like muscle knots you develop from poor posture or from over-reliance on some parts of your body. The tighter the knots, the more painful and out of alignment the rest of your body is, creating other problems and limiting all that you could do.

Unless we catch ourselves in our habitual patterns and then consciously “shift our posture,” we reinforce our knots and become more trapped and in pain.

If you are confused or frustrated from getting stuck in the same dynamics, the Enneagram can help you learn:

  • WHY you do what you do,

  • WHAT your core needs, fears, strengths, and blindspots are,

  • HOW to turn off your autopilot mode and be more responsive, not reactive,

  • HOW to foster new ways of being.

Break free of the unconscious and impulsive habits that got you trapped.

Live freely, laugh fully, and love deeply in ways you’ve always wanted.

Sick and tired of being sore and stuck?
Want to come alive?

The Nine Types of the Enneagram

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TYPE One: The Perfectionist

  • Ethical, dedicated, reliable, rigid, critical of self and others,

  • Focus on what’s wrong or on what could be “better”

  • Motivated by a desire to live the right way, improve the world

  • Avoid fault, blame, and criticism

Type two: The Helper

  • Warm, friendly, serving, others-oriented, indirectly self-serving

  • Focus on being connected to others

  • Motivated by a need to be liked/loved and needed

  • Avoid rejection, acknowledging and expressing own needs

Type three: The Performer

  • Success-oriented, high achieving, image-conscious, shapeshifting

  • Focus on tasks, goals, success, image

  • Motivated by a need to be (or appear to be) successful

  • Avoid failure (and appearing to fail)

type four: The Romantic

  • Creative, emotionally/aesthetically sensitive, moody, self-absorbed

  • Focus on emotions, the state of relationships, being authentically oneself, what's missing

  • Motivated by a need to be understood and to experience their oversized feelings

  • Avoid being ordinary or like others

type Five: The Investigator

  • Analytical, objective, private, detached/withdrawn

  • Focus on knowledge, privacy, managing energy/space/resources

  • Motivated by a need to gain knowledge, conserve energy

  • Avoid relying on others, emotions

Type Six: The Loyalist

  • Committed, practical, analytical, and skeptical/doubtful

  • Focus on risk, danger, and threats; preparing for the worst

  • Motivated by fear and the need to feel safe and secure

  • Avoid uncertainty and spontaneity

type Seven: The Enthusiast

  • Fun, upbeat, spontaneous, adventurous, frenetic, evasive

  • Focus on pleasure, positives, possibilities

  • Motivated by a need to be happy, to plan stimulating/exciting experiences

  • Avoid pain, discomfort, negatives

type Eight: The Challenger

  • Commanding, powerful, intense, confrontational, dominating

  • Focus on power and control

  • Motivated by a need to be strong

  • Avoid feeling week or vulnerable, being exploited or betrayed

type Nine: The Peacemaker

  • Pleasant, laid back, accommodating, emotionally steady, procrastinating, self-forgetting

  • Focus on others, what's happening in the environment

  • Motivated by a need to keep the peace, achieve harmony, merge

  • Avoid conflict, anger, separation from others

Want to learn how to grow beyond your type?

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In order to CHANGE behavior to achieve personal growth, we must develop one capacity:

We must develop the ability to create the mental and emotional SPACE inside ourselves to OBSERVE and UNDERSTAND WHAT we are doing and think about WHY we do it.
— Beatrice Chestnut, "The Complete Enneagram"