So many things that are supposed to be nourishing & flourishing seem to leave you invisible & depleted instead:

Your culture. Your faith. Your family. Your successes & achievements.

You did everything you could to keep your queerness bottled up and to compensate for this supposed “flaw”...but living this way just BROKE you.

You’re here because you just can’t keep living like this — splintered, wounded, suffocating, alone (oh so alone…) — just to feel like you belong.

…but do you, really?

If you truly belonged, you wouldn’t always have to look over your shoulder to make sure someone doesn’t find out how you really feel.

The painful reality is that the people you love don’t really see you if all they see is the mask you put up — of the Easy Kid, the Golden Child, the High Achiever, and/or the Super Responsible & Reliable One.

Your body’s been giving you warning signs for years — difficulty getting out of bed, tension headaches, digestive issues, and sleep problems — but because you’ve ignored them for so long, sometimes you feel disconnected from your body altogether.

And no matter how much you bend over backwards to give, help, manage, or perform, you still feel anxious, guilty, and inadequate.

I’ve been there. I see you.
And I can help you come back to yourself!

I myself am a firstborn daughter of Korean immigrants who grew up in the Church as a DEEPLY closeted queer kid, even becoming a pastor to try to earn worthiness, belonging, and love.

I know what it’s like to try to “be GOOD” to earn a seat at the table — only to still struggle with feeling ineligible. (Hello, Imposter Syndrome!)

To climb ladders, serve others, silence yourself—hoping someone will finally say:

“You’re enough, just as you are.”

But healing & wholeness aren’t something that’s OUT THERE somewhere that you earn only AFTER becoming someone else.

Instead, the secret is learning how to give yourself the very permission, validation, and love that you so desperately seek from others.

(BTW, this ain’t about you tolerating being alone forever, but putting the horse before the cart. YOU love you first! That kinda confidence draws a whole different crowd to you — one that deeply honors & celebrates you from the inside out! )

I help LGBTQ+ folks — especially those who are Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), People of Color, Adult Children of Immigrants, and Spiritual/Religious (or Deconstructing) — untangle the mess, reclaim their voice, and finally BREATHE!

We’ll explore how to:

• Feel your feelings without drowning in them

• Create emotionally, physically, and relationally safe & nurturing spaces

• Set (& keep) appropriate levels of boundaries in your relationships

• Discern whether/how to practically come out

• Work through complicated feelings including shame, guilt, and grief

• Define YOUR vision of a wholesome future

• Reconcile with every part of yourself—and live out your own beauty without shame

You deserve support that sees & honors your sacred truth and helps you move forward concretely.

What are things that have been weighing on you that aren’t really yours to carry?

There’s a huge difference between YOUR stuff and the emotional baggage dumped on you by:

• A religion that said your essence is evil or BAD

• A family that expected silence & sacrifice

• A culture that taught you to check these boxes and fit into those boxes

• A community that only loved you if you fit in neatly and didn’t cause “trouble”

I offer therapy to the ones who’ve had to:

• Mask their real self & true feelings to survive

• Be the emotional glue for their family, community, or church

• Internalize other people’s shame, fear, projections, or ego bullshit by being made the villain or problem

• Navigate risky relationships & circumstances, including job or housing instability

If you're struggling with:

• Emotional or relationship trauma from years of suppressing who you are, what you feel, and what you want & need in life

• Spiritual trauma from hearing messages like “God hates you”

• Anxiety, guilt, or shame that feels baked into your bones

• Medical issues that stem from chronic stress and people-pleasing

• Internalized homophobia, transphobia, or biphobia

• Financial instability, especially if you're estranged or navigating generational scarcity

…you’re not broken. You’re just carrying what was never yours to begin with.