Inner turbulence doesn’t mean you’re broken, but that there’s MORE to you than you know!
Ever have moments when your inner dialogue goes something like:
“I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself! I know what I SHOULD do, but I just can’t get myself to do them!”
“I’m so sick & tired of pining for my ex! Why can’t I just move on, dammit?”
“I feel so jealous that I wasn’t invited to that trip, but I’m trying to also tell myself to calm the F down.”
“I feel stuck! I don’t know what to do next…If I choose one path, then it’ll be so fun but I’ll feel guilty. If I choose the other, then I wouldn’t feel judged but would feel so trapped.”
You might feel like you’re constantly pulled in opposite directions. One part of you wants to rest, another says you should be productive. One part wants to speak up, another panics about what people will think. You end up stuck in loops of overthinking, procrastination, or second-guessing yourself…especially when you’re facing a major life decision.
Or maybe it feels more intense than that. Like you get hijacked by emotions that seem to come out of nowhere — snapping at someone you love, shutting down, spiraling — and then beating yourself up afterward. There’s a loud inner critic narrating everything, impulse control feels inconsistent, and you bounce between “I need to get it together” and “I don’t even care anymore.”
Add in imposter syndrome or shiny object syndrome, and it can feel like you’re constantly starting over…and wondering what’s the hell wrong with you or if you’re losing your ever loving mind.
Sound familiar? Say “Hello” to your Parts! 👋
Did you know that NOBODY is a single, one-dimensional being, but that ALL OF US are actually MANY OF US?
We’re not simplistic entities who are complete robots that unquestioningly implement our predecided programming. We are multidimensional, complex beings who are capable of having many values, desires, and giftings (even ones that seem antithetical), so that we can manuever through life in response to the ever-shifting, nuanced moments it brings.
In Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, this is called MULTIPLICITY — that the mind is not a single, linear entity, but is rather naturally composed of multiple subpersonalities (a.k.a. “parts”).
Not to worry! This does NOT mean you’re crazy. This is very normal, healthy, and functional, and an expected process of psychological development.
Nothing is “wrong” with you. There are just different parts of you trying (really hard, by the way!!) to help…in the only ways they know how (even if it might not be what a given moment needs).
Need help getting to know your parts?
What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)?
Think of your inner world like a kingdom — kinda like Inside Out, but without the PG rating and wayyyyy more drama.
Once upon a time, there was a Wise, Rightful Ruler. Grounded, compassionate, clear. Everyone in teh kingdom looked up to them.
But somewhere, somehow, sometime, that Ruler went missing. And now the throne is empty.
Your inner “Advisors” — who specialize in their own areas of genius — PANIC. Why?
Because SOMEONE’s gotta run the kingdom or chaos will ensue!!
So they start fighting amongst themselves, arguing passionately to prevent their own worst-case scenarios.
stepping in, taking control, and eventually… fighting each other. A ruling faction forms (the ones who seem most “functional”), while other parts—just as important, but less understood—get pushed aside, silenced, or locked away.
But those locked-up parts don’t disappear. They break out. They demand to be heard. And suddenly, you’re caught in cycles of inner chaos—swinging between extremes of SHOULDs, I DON’T WANNA’s, and WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME’s.
Meanwhile, you—the whole human—are just trying to get through the day without feeling like you’re losing your everloving mind.
Here’s the thing: the problem isn’t any of these parts. Not the ones trying to keep it together. Not the ones acting out. Not even the ones holding pain.
The missing piece is your Wise, Rightful Ruler—your Self.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a therapy approach that helps you reconnect with that core Self. From there, your system can begin to rebalance:
the overworked protectors can finally rest
the exiled parts can be seen, heard, and integrated
and you can move through life with more clarity, calm, and internal trustLess Reacting, More Relaxing!
What Brainspotting Therapy Helps With
Brainspotting channels your body’s natural ability to heal itself from overwhelming or stressful experiences that generate symptoms of anxiety or depression. It leverages your specific eye positions linked to stress memories and lets the body “detox” off the residues.
In other words, I help people:
discover where those leftovers are stored in their brain
process them fully to soothe their body, so that they can
access/utilize healthy coping skills
What’s interesting is that your body knows how to do this on an instinctual level, since where you look affects how you feel.
Consider the “thousand-yard stare”. You may have seen veterans or terminal illness patients stare off blankly into space, detached from what’s happening around them.
They're not really looking AT anything, of course, because their focus is directed inward towards their thoughts, emotions, body sensations, or memories. They’re gazing in a certain direction:
Left vs. middle vs. right
Top vs. middle vs. down
Close vs. far
This is an example of Brainspotting (specifically gazespotting), when the body spontaneously goes into processing mode.
However, the issue is that people can accidentally disconnect from their present, further trigger themselves, and make reactive decisions that feel right in the moment but make matters worse.
For example, someone who was triggered by what a coworker said may ruminate on that throughout the day, get even more angry, ashamed, and confused, then come home and kick the dog.
We often judge and label that person as having “anger issues,” not knowing that this might actually be a trauma response. This doesn’t justify the behavior, but shaming the person doesn’t help them heal and doesn’t serve anyone (not even the dog). If we get to the root cause and heal that directly, then everyone benefits.
How does Brainspotting work?
Processing big emotions can feel lonely, overwhelming, and out of control. Instead of trying to manage your reactivity (and failing), use Brainspotting Therapy to process your pain on purpose with specific eye positions that expedite your emotional processing in a safe, contained space.
Don’t split your attention between sorting your emotions internally while trying not to make a mess externally. This doesn’t work! Instead, direct ALL your focus on your internal processing while I (as the Brainspotting therapist) handle whatever happens on the outside.
No need to worry about messing things up or hurting me, because:
I am devoted to your healing (this is no one space but yours)
I am trained to deal with all that comes up (it’s okay if you don’t know what’s happening)
I’m not scared of big emotions (no need to take care of me).
You focus on taking care of you. I got you covered!
BIG feels been weighing you down?
It’s time to clear that out so you can start your life afresh.
Schedule your consultation call now!
Brainspotting
Certification & Training
Phases 1 & 2 (Lisa Larson), 3 (David Grand)
Expansion Brainspotting
MoneySpotting
SoulSpotting
Also trained in EMDR 1 & 2 (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing)
Struggling with emotional triggers or intimacy issues in your relationships because you were hurt in the past? Brainspotting is a powerful trauma therapy that helps you release past wounds stored in the body—so you can clearly see and effectively attend to each new person and moment clearly for what it is, instead of what your old trauma ghosts tell you they are.