When You’re the One Everyone Turns to…But You’re Running on Empty

You’ve tried to be the calm in the storm, the one who holds it all together. But inside, you feel so frayed that you can’t even remember whether you had lunch yet.

You’re EXHAUSTED — from anxiety, from guilt, from second-guessing yourself. You feel embarrassed for even needing help, let alone asking for it. You wonder:

“Why am I like this?”
“Shouldn’t I be stronger by now?”

You’ve been called TOO SENSITIVE, TOO EMOTIONAL, or TOO MUCH — so you’ve learned to stuff your feelings, only for them to burst out when you least expect.

You give so much, yet feel SELFISH for wanting comfort.

You care deeply, but you’re just DROWNING in what everyone else needs.

You SHOULD be fine...but you’re not.

You’re just. SO. FUCKING. TIRED.

(…and if we’re really being honest, resentful AF)

Sound familiar?

It doesn’t have to stay this way. Let’s untangle the overwhelm and build the kind of connections where you feel seen, safe, and fulfilled.

Relationship Struggle Bus?
Been there, done that.

Hi, I'm Joanne Kim. I help empathic & conscientious people who often FORGET their own needs create lives & relationships that make room for them, too.

As an Enneagram Therapist and a Certified Brainspotting Practitioner, I help people grow beyond their painful reactive patterns.

A special welcome to:

• Highly Sensitive Persons & Empaths

• People Pleasers & BIG Feelers

• Enneagram Ones, Twos, Fours, & Nines

• LGBTQ+ Persons of Color or Faith

• Caregivers & Helping Professionals

• Those wrestling with anxiety, depression, burnout, resentment, & trauma

• Those in/coming out of toxic relationships

You’re in the right place if…

• You end up in lopsided, hurtful relationships, but you just want to be loved.

• You're sick of fighting because you feel rejected or misunderstood.

• Your emotions are tangled up with others’, and they feel overwhelming.

• You feel stuck, hurt, and alone…but you still got some fight in you.

Time to start revamping your life & relationships!

How Does Therapy Work?

A head’s up - I’m NOT the typical talk therapist. I’m NOT interested in having you sit on the couch with me for years, licking your sore wounds.

I want you to actually HEAL so that you can get on with living your full life. (It’s about damn time you took care of your needs & dreams, too!)

Instead of just putting out fires, I want to address what’s causing them in the first place.

Once all the dust has settled, we’ll get to repairing what’s broken, tossing out old patterns that aren’t serving you anymore.

Then we’ll get to practically building your BIG dreams so that you can actually breathe easy & ENJOY what you’ve created!

Therapy with Me Involves:

• Weekly, 50-minute sessions for 40ish weeks so we build and work off of good momentum

• Using the Enneagram to discover & address your automatic patterns that create those painful & rigid “knots” in your life and relationships

• Using Brainspotting to massage out more stubborn, trauma-based “knots” that you can’t just work out by yourself or by talking about it

• Making incremental but lasting changes to how you live and create new “muscle memory”

• Finding RELIEF and gaining access to your whole being so you can LIVE and LOVE WELL in ways both you and your loved ones need

By the End of Therapy, You Will…

• Work WITH your emotions.

• Know & live out your full self-worth.

• Advocate for your needs without apologizing.

• Use boundaries to protect what matters to you.

• Make your relationships more mutually nourishing.

• Reclaim your rightful power in all domains of your life.

• Learn to enjoy life and rest without guilt.

Ah!!! Where do I begin?