When You’re the One Everyone Turns to…But You’re Running on Empty
You’ve tried to be the calm in the storm, the one who holds it all together. But inside, you feel so frayed that you can’t even remember whether you had lunch yet.
You’re EXHAUSTED — from anxiety, from guilt, from second-guessing yourself. You feel embarrassed for even needing help, let alone asking for it. You wonder:
“Why am I like this?”
“Shouldn’t I be stronger by now?”
You’ve been called TOO SENSITIVE, TOO EMOTIONAL, or TOO MUCH — so you’ve learned to stuff your feelings, only for them to burst out when you least expect.
You give so much, yet feel SELFISH for wanting comfort.
You care deeply, but you’re just DROWNING in what everyone else needs.
You SHOULD be fine...but you’re not.
You’re just. SO. FUCKING. TIRED.
(…and if we’re really being honest, resentful AF)
Sound familiar?
It doesn’t have to stay this way. Let’s untangle the overwhelm and build the kind of connections where you feel seen, safe, and fulfilled.
Relationship Strugglebus? Been there, done that.
Hi, I’m Joanne Kim.
I help empathic, conscientious people who forget their own needs create lives & relationships that make room for them, too!
As an Enneagram Therapist and a Certified Brainspotting Practitioner, I help people grow beyond their painful reactive patterns.
A special welcome to:
Highly Sensitive Persons & Empaths
People Pleasers & BIG Feelers
Enneagram Ones, Twos, Fours, & Nines
Caregivers & Helping Professionals
Those wrestling with anxiety, depression, burnout, resentment, & trauma
Those in/coming out of toxic relationships
You’re in the right place if…
You end up in hurtful relationships,
but you just want to be loved.
You're sick of fighting because you feel
rejected or misunderstood.
Your emotions are jumbled up with others’, and they feel overwhelming.
You feel stuck, hurt, and alone….but you still got some fire left in you.
Time to start revamping your life & relationships!
How does therapy work?
A head’s up - I’m NOT the typical talk therapist. I’m NOT interested in you sitting on the couch with me for years. I want you to jump all in, do the hard work, heal well, and get on with living your full life. (It’s about damn time you took care of your needs and dreams, too!)
Instead of putting out fires, I want to find out and deal with what’s causing them in the first place.
Once all the dust has settled, we’ll get to repairing what’s broken and then even dream about all you WANT to see happen in your life.
Then we’ll get to planning and building so that you can actually ENJOY what you’ve created!
Therapy with me involves:
Weekly, 50-minute sessions for 40ish weeks so we build and work off of good momentum
Using the Enneagram to discover your patterns of thinking, feeling, and doing that create those painful and rigid “knots” in your life and relationships
Using Brainspotting to massage out more stubborn, trauma-based “knots” that you can’t just work out by yourself
Making incremental but lasting changes to how you live and create new “muscle memory”
Finding RELIEF and gaining access to your whole being so you can LIVE and LOVE WELL in ways both you and your loved ones need
By the end of therapy, you will…
Work WITH your emotions.
Know your self-worth.
Advocate for your needs without “I’m sorry.”
Use boundaries to protect what matters to you.
Make your relationships more mutually beneficial.
Live in self-control, not others-control or -controlled.
Learn to enjoy life and rest without guilt.
“I had to say how deeply impactful Joanne’s session was. I’ve never heard emotions discussed through the Enneagram like that before...I’ve spent my life feeling ashamed of my ‘negative’ emotions. She’s so insightful and articulate. I’m genuinely grateful.”
Ah!!! Where do I begin?
That’s easy.
Book your free 15-min consult call for virtual counseling today!
