Recommended Books & Resources
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The Complete Enneagram:
27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge
Beatrice Chestnut, PhD
Do you ever have moments when your impact doesn’t align with your intention? Do you find yourself ever doing or saying things in the heat of the moment, only to regret it after things cool down? Do you have a complicated relationship with any of the following emotions: anger, sadness, fear, or joy?
The Enneagram can be a powerfully clarifying resource to help you know:
(1) why you do what you do
(2) what your autopilot reactive patterns are
(3) what your core needs and fears are
(4) how to effectively break out of those dynamics
(5) how to build new ways of living and loving.
When to Say Yes, How to Say No
to take control over your life
Henry Cloud & John Townsend
A boundary is a personal line that marks those things for which we are responsible; it defines who we are and who we are not. Clear boundaries are essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. Different boundaries include:
Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances.
Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions.
Emotional boundaries help us deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others.
Learn how to set effective boundaries with others so that you can enjoy healthy, thriving relationships that honor all parties.
How to find relationships that are good for you
and avoid those that aren’t
Henry Cloud & John Townsend
“Why do I keep finding myself around the same kinds of people?” If you’re feeling deeply hurt by loved ones and confused as to why this keeps happening, it may be good to look for some patterns that may lie in your blind spots. When we interact with others who exhibit patterns that we are all too familiar with, it’s hard to put our finger on what’s happening. Sometimes seeing things from different angles helps…
Learn what signs to look for in both safe and unsafe people and upgrade your radar so that you can draw closer to those who help you grow.
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship:
How to stop being abused
and how to stop abusing
Various types of abusive dynamics exist, yet emotionally abusive patterns are the hardest to address precisely because of its invisible nature. These destructive dynamics include:
gaslighting - actions that lead someone to question their perceptions
character assassination - actions that tarnish someone’s reputation or paint them in a negative light
creating constant chaos - a cycle of explosion or instability that heightens each person’s reactive patterns and erodes the sense of safety and security in the relationship
All of us have the potential of engaging in emotionally abusive patterns. The point isn’t to label someone as abusive, but rather to catch and address these dynamics when they do come up. This book identifies emotional abuse and the roots behind it ands equip readers with skills to reverse harmful patterns towards restoration.