To be FULLY KNOWN and TRULY LOVED is...what we need more than anything.
— Timothy J. Keller
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The fear of being alone keep you stuck in painful relationships.

Your stomach or chest hurts whenever you think about saying something that might make someone mad.

You feel invisible or alone, even when you're surrounded by people. You try to fit in, but still feel like the black sheep.

What's wrong with you? You're so sensitive. Stop being selfish. You've heard these words growing up. Guilt and anxiety are your norm.

No matter how hard you try to be what others need you to be - caring, attentive, and self-less - it never seems enough.

 

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Imagine a life full of laughter and hope.

Where you're known and loved.

Where you don't need masks.

Do you want a life like that?


What is Therapy?

Therapy is a safe space where you explore your relationship patterns, discover what's helping and hurting, and experiment with new ways of living and relating.

In this journey, you are the driver, with your hands on the steering wheel and your foot on the gas and brake pedals. As the therapist, I am in the passenger seat, pointing out what to pay attention to, what helps you reach your destination, and what helps make the journey more enjoyable and less stressful.

Although I am the guide, you are still the driver. We move towards your goals, at your pace, with your style.


Areas of Focus

 

Emotional Health

  • Guilt, anxiety, sadness, anger

  • Complex Trauma (hurt by loved ones)

  • Abuse (physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual)

  • Burnout, compassion fatigue

  • Codependency

Relational Health

  • Difficult Relationships

  • Family Relationships

  • Dating, Marriage

  • Family Members with Addiction

  • LGBTQ-friendly


My Approach

 

Attachment:

  • Our early life experiences with significant figures heavily shaped our view of ourselves, others, and the world. We view life through this "lens" and make decisions to ensure safety and security in relationships. The best way to heal from relationship wounds is through relationships.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT):

  • Emotions draw us closer to our loved ones. Our significant relationships also stir up deep emotions. The more out of touch we are from our emotions, the more difficult it is to connect well to those whom we love. The more fluent we become with our emotions, the more effectively we can bond with and respond to them.

Enneagram

  • Everyone has different areas of strength and stuckness that persist throughout one’s life, for better and for worse. Self-knowledge and self-awareness are essential to healing our deep pains, shifting our lifelong patterns, and growing into the fullness of who we can be. The Enneagram helps conveniently yet profoundly identify these patterns so that we can intentionally work towards becoming whole in our authentic, unique ways.

Brainspotting (BSP):

  • Brainspotting is a very intentional, focused form of trauma treatment and is a derivative of EMDR
    (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing). As a brain-based trauma treatment, BSP directly accesses the limbic/emotional brain where trauma memories are stored, far out of reach of the cognitive/thinking brain that talk therapy is built on. Brainspotting identifies, unlocks, and processes these trauma memories and their neurophysiological expressions in a powerful and efficient manner.