You're tired of repeating the same fights over and over again, with both sides feeling alone, rejected, or insignificant.
You try to get through to your partner, who keeps tuning you out.
One small, "stupid" thing becomes this huge fight that ends with one of you leaving the house or ignoring texts for days.
It's easier to spend more time at work or taking care of the kids.
You're more roommates than lovers.
Does this sound like the two of you? Many couples feel hurt when the very person who's supposed to love, comfort, and support them seems to criticize, ignore, or reject them.
As moments of disconnection build up, it becomes harder to trust and easier to attack or ignore the one you love.
But what if you can be like THIS again?
Healthy couple relationships are built on three components:
- Accessibility: Can I reach you, even when I feel insecure?
- Responsiveness: Can I rely on you to respond to me emotionally?
- Engagement: Do I know you will value me and stay close?
When these are threatened, even small moments can stir up past hurts and pull couples apart. On the contrary, when these are strengthened, the couple draws closer together than ever before.
It all depends on your "dance."
Will you turn towards each other?
Or turn against/away from each other?
Whether your relationship is "hot" with conflict, "lukewarm" from busyness, or "cold" from apathy, you can revitalize and rebuild your relationship.
What IS couples therapy like?
In 75-minutes sessions, you and your partner will:
- explore your communication and conflict patterns
- address "hot button" topics
- learn new skills to promote understanding
- replace negative patterns with connecting moments
Since healthy relationships aren't built overnight, this journey will take an investment of time, energy, and resources. But imagine a future where you can find comfort, strength, and courage in each other.
What if your relationship thrives so that safety, passion, and hope become the norm?
Areas of Focus
- Communication & Conflict
- Intimacy (physical, emotional, sexual)
- Intimacy after having children
- In-law relations
- Affair recovery
- Our early life experiences with significant attachment figures heavily shaped our view of ourselves, others, the world, and God. We view life through this "lens" and make decisions to ensure safety and security in relationships.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT):
- Emotions can draw us deeper into relationships. Emotions and relationships are intricately interconnected: the emotionally attuned we are, the more connected we become. The deeper our connections, the greater our sense of security.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT):
Our thoughts shape our perception and response to our experiences. Distorted thinking leads to reactivity, causing further pain. However, accurate thoughts help us make wise decisions. By identifying and challenging the messages that drive us, we master our thoughts, and therefore change our behaviors.
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