Recommended Books & Resources

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How We Love

Milan & Kay Yerkovich

Is your relationship stuck, repeating the same old patterns?

Our early life experiences, for better or worse, taught us how to love. Stumbling over the same irksome “dance steps” in their relationships, people usually have no clue there’s another way – a better way. Using attachment theory, experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich have created the tools to take your relationships to the next level, starting today.

Find out which of the “Love Styles” is your dominant stance:

  • Pleaser

  • Avoider

  • Vacillator

  • Controller

  • Victim

Hold Me Tight &
Created for Connection

Susan Johnson

Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith. But sometimes we need a little help.

Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and "the best couple therapist in the world," says that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship - from "Recognizing the Demon Dialogue" to "Revisiting a Rocky Moment" - and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.

Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, or making grand romantic gestures. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection. The way to enhance or save our relationships with each other is to be open, attuned, responsive, and to reestablish safe emotional connection.


The Couple Checkup

David Olson, Amy Olson-Sigg, & Peter Larson

Based on an unprecedented national survey of 50,000 marriages, The Couple Checkup identifies a couple's strengths and presents the principles for creating a successful couple relationship through the book and online assessment. Each chapter contains couple exercises to help build couple strengths in a variety of areas.


Torn Asunder:
Recovering from an Extramarital Affair

Dave Carder

Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners with compassion and wisdom rooted in the Bible. Some addressed questions:

  • Why did this happen?

  • We didn’t actually sleep together, so is it still an affair?

  • Can I trust my spouse again?

  • Should I reveal a secret affair?

  • What if my spouse doesn’t want me back?

  • What do we tell the kids?

Pair this with the Torn Asunder Workbook for extra guidance in applying the book to your marriage. 

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